What I recommend, you may not like. Shoot several different pistols and make your own choice. Shooter's Choice near Cheswold, De., and other shops will rent "try" guns. Personnally, after trying S&W, Sig, Glock, and others, I opted for the Springfield XDM 3.8 compact. I have two, one in 9mm, the other in .45. I am very happy with my choice, they conceal well, fit my hand well, are accurate, shoot hollow points well, and after many rounds, I have had no malfunctions.