Hawkeye,
I have been looking for a gun that was light weight, easy slide pull, not too powerful but powerful, and shoots like any other gun...on target. Someone suggested the Walther PK380. I held it and immediately liked it because of the weight. My husband says I fell in love with it. It's a pretty gun too. A month or so later a friend of ours purchased one and I was able to shoot it. I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed shooting this gun. It felt great to hold and was so light weight, even loaded. A 9mm kinda scares me as I'm not REALLY comfortable yet because I'm a beginner, kinda. BUT the PK380 was perfect because it packed a lotta punch, but not too much. I would suggest having your daughter go to a range and shooting one. I think she will fall in love with it just like I did. I'm also considering getting my CCW. Good luck to you and your family.
~Wife of Hdrules