Hi GA2.
I have lived In New York City, New Jersey, The Pcocno's PA. and now In Delaware, And In that order, and hands down Delaware Is the best. I can't speak for other states that I didn't live In. If I were you, ( And I know that IF can be a very big word ) I would move down here as soon as my new home was finished. I would use New Jersey as a second address and DE. as my first for a lot of reasons that I will not state here.
Just something to think about, I will never put anything In writing that I would not like to see In court, talk to others off the cuff, and then see just what Is best for you and yours. Good luck!
Semper Fi all. Hank.